Right ring size, a game you can’t win

If you ask me about the “right” ring size, with the experience I have, I would say there is no such thing. Right -ish ring size, yes.

Your fingers change more than you think. Measure your ring size in the morning, and it will be different by the evening. Measure it in winter, and by the time summer comes, it might shift noticeably. Heat, cold, movement, even what you eat, especially something salty or carb-heavy, can make your fingers hold onto water.

And then there are bigger changes. You lose a few kilograms, and suddenly the rings that once fit feel loose, almost like they don’t belong to you anymore.

So instead of chasing the “perfect” size, I always come back to the same advice: be flexible.

A good ring size is not a fixed number but a small range. It should go over the knuckle without too much struggle, but not slide off too easily. It shouldn’t feel tight when your hands are warm or when you close your fist and it shouldn’t feel like you have to constantly check if it’s still there.

Most fingers can comfortably hold more than one size. Sometimes the same ring will fit on different fingers, or even on the other hand and that’s not a mistake, it’s part of how our bodies are.

I think we’re used to thinking of jewellery as something precise, exact, defined but in reality, it moves with us and adapts.

So when choosing a ring size, don’t aim for perfection. Aim for something that feels right most of the time.

The rest will shift, just like everything else.